5 Things Every Woman Should Stop Being Sorry About
This post comes as a note to myself, as much as it does to every other woman out there. I’ve been told ever so often that “sorry” is my favorite word! And recently I realized that indeed, I am sorry way too often, and for things that I shouldn’t even be sorry about. Do you find yourself saying sorry to humans, animals, plants and at times even inanimate objects way too frequently? Then you too suffer from what I call, the “apology syndrome”. – A completely unnecessary and dispensable one!
Taking care of yourself – Spending that extra one thousand rupees on multi vitamins, instead of buying an expensive birthday present for your son? Indulging in the occasional foot spa? Going for a movie and a luxurious meal afterward because you need some “me-time”? Not many of us can do all the things mentioned above and not feel guilty afterward. Think out loud about why you should even feel guilty for taking care of yourself!
Saying “No” – Say “No” to going for that dinner you absolutely don’t feel like going to. Because you have had a very long day and all you want to do is relax at home. Saying “No” to sex because you don’t feel like it. Saying “No” to working over-time four times a week.
Don’t do it if you wish you’d be better off not doing it! And stop feeling bad for not doing what you don’t feel like doing. Stop feeling bad about saying “No”!
Delegating tasks – We have a tiny (or not so tiny) control freak hidden within us. At times though, it is essential to let go and let others help you help yourself. Acknowledging that you can’t do it all by yourself, and need help, is not something that will brand you as inefficient. You’ve got nothing to be sorry about, if you feel you need to delegate tasks.
Taking a stand – Stand up for what you feel is right. Even if it may not sit well with many you love. You are free to make your own choices, and take a stand for what you believe in, and against, what you don’t. You are just being who you are. And are you sorry for who you are?
Putting yourself first – If you think you are a priority for yourself, amongst many other things and people in your life, it is nothing to be sorry about. You owe your own being to yourself, before anyone or anything else.
At times you need to be sorry and accept when you have made a mistake. But at other times, you should stop being sorry, especially when you haven’t made any mistake. And these five things should top your “I will never be sorry for these” list. So which of these five would you pick first?
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13 Mar 2017
