The career conversations you need to have before getting married

They say, marriages are made in heaven. And “they” may well be true. But back here on Earth, preparing well for life after marriage may help. Here are some things to ask or identify about your future partner before taking the grand step.

To work or not to work?

Many women around the world leave their careers post-marriage. Some may choose not to while some may be forced not to. There is a big difference between wanting to take a break from work and being forced to. It helps to discuss what your future partner’s thoughts on working women are before taking a step. Not having a similar dispositions on this subject could cause friction later.

Your Money, or Mine

Irrespective of whether you are heading for an arranged marriage or a love marriage – it helps to try and find out what your future partner’s stance on money issues are. Specifically, whether they are still dependent on their parents or whether they are financially independent.

This can prevent a lot of hiccups in the future. It especially helps to understand whether your partner is more of a practical spender, whether he likes to manage his own finances, whether he is a spendthrift and so on.

Meet the Parents

While you and your future spouse may choose to live away from your parents, it is still helpful to know about each other’s families. Spend some time with your partner’s parents and siblings to get to know them. Ask him questions about them too.

Democracy or Dictatorship?

Every relationship is different. Some couples may find their balance by always having one member execute key decisions. Others may prefer a joint decision-making approach regarding family matters. It always helps to find what works for you in your relationship prior to getting married.