It Is Your JOIE DE VIVRE; Woman! Go On That Vacation By Yourself

Today is the last day of my vacation.

Yes resolutions, lists and hand me down goals are not my thing. For me it has always been travel that organically works and in the last 18 years it is that one thing which has steered my life forward. I travel with family, friends and on my own. I decided to start my 2017 on the correct note for myself.

So I decided to go on a vacation beginning of the year and started with a visit to a friend in Mumbai, then a solo trip to Goa for few days. A friend of mine joined in and after that, I travelled from Goa to Bangalore to visit my family.

Those priceless days of “being on my own, alone and by myself” are always special, insightful and heartwarming. I have done this before several times, but each time it opens me up to witness my own growth and evolution.

 

Some of the most astute, perceptive and intuitive  things dawned upon me on this trip too.





 

Indian women don’t know how to be on their own and be content with that.

There is always this pressure to be under care, supervision of the father/brother/boyfriend/husband or son. And if not them, then she is under collective guardianship of the extended family. Without a man around, women feel incomplete, inadequate, uncomfortable and incomplete.

Independence, self autonomy and individual freedom are still unheard things even for the educated, cosmopolitan and financially well off women in our country. There is fear, stigma and loss associated with a woman who is at ease being on her own.

When one travels on their own, it sorts out these fears forever. One discovers how to enjoy their own company, time and self. It builds self worth and acceptance.  

Self love is the key.

Indian women are great managers, financial planners, teachers, mentors, caregivers, security personnel, cooks, house help, relationship managers and nurses.

Yes, being good at all that makes her that “wonder woman”.

But when she is surrounded by all this paraphernalia and tending to others needs, somewhere her own self is forgotten.

Self care, love and rejuvenation are seen as prohibited wants or sins put on the table as a right and need. Women themselves too, pull down and taunt fellow women when they see them giving into self care. As if it is a bad thing to do. It is still a taboo. She is then considered to be way too self indulgent.

High time, a woman stops paying heed to what others have to say about life and make some serious time for self care, love and rejuvenation.

After a point you can’t really tend or give to others. There will only be exhaustion, guilt, blame, irritation and regret in one’s life. Take off even for a weekend on your own; this will recharge and refuel you.

One needs to start treating their own self well; don’t keep waiting for others to do that for you.

Women keep waiting for others to bring them happiness, peace and contentment. Other people and things can’t unless you feel it within and on our own.

Travelling on your own and treating yourself to good things, pampering one self, trying new things, resting and having that sumptuous meal; all that is crucial for one to feel wholesome on their own.

Unless you are wholesome on your own, you will only attract broken people around you, who will bring in more unnecessary drama and stress.

Time alone equals to self augmentation and progression.

Yes, we clutter our lives every day.

Waste our energy on the most trivial and inconsequential things, people and emotions, which are simply useless to dwell upon. Yet with all that knowledge and awareness, we let these ideas and people occupy our head space, mind and heart. Somewhere it brings us down. We lose our spirit and zest for life.

Travelling by your self is that act of de - clutter.

In that time alone you regain your power, get a hang of things, gain new perspectives, step out of the box and find new ways to become joyful and content. One also cuts ties with the toxic, avoidable and superfluous. You also figure out what are the real things and people you need in your life.  

It is your “Joie de vivre”  

It is high time women have fun, a good time, toss worries aside and have a ball.

Without having to explain themselves, justifiy their lives, be answerable for every move or action and be responsible solely for all chores and burdens.

Travelling by yourself will free you. It gives you wings. Elevates your spririt. Strengthen your core and gives you that much needed self esteem. It’s sheer joy, happiness and contentment.