How to “Get a life”

Answer the following questions sincerely:-

1. Do you (or your close ones) consider yourself as a workaholic?
2. Do you avoid phone calls from friends/family more often?
3. Do you usually cancel plans with your SO or your friends?
4. Is your idea of enjoyment, happy hours or binge watching your favourite shows/movies or even sleeping in?

If you answered yes to most questions above, then you my friend would be someone who needs to “Get a life”.  Chances are, you might have told yourself this very phrase and felt sorry on your condition.

Now, I want you to answer is this question: Who do you know has your definition of a life?

Most of you would struggle in answering this question. Now, I’m sure some of you might actually know someone who is living your definition of a life, that doesn’t mean you are any different than the ones who don’t. So, listen up!

When we don’t know what else to do with our lives, we work, a lot. And because more than 80% of us are actively discontented with our work, we build up a lot of existential anxiety, panic, and exhaustion during the day.

We all develop ways to numb out and reroute ourselves when we’re deeply doubtful about who we are and what we want out of life. Social drinking is the answer for a lot of people, but we all do it in one way or another. If not with alcohol then maybe with internet, or TV, or food, or romance that you know aren’t right for you from day one.

I’m sure; this is not the life you dreamed of having as a kid. In fact the ‘kid’ you will be shocked at the present scenario. I am also sure of the fact that this routine, machine like way of living is not what you would choose, if you had a choice. Right?

Right! So what can you do?

Well, for starters, don’t think that “getting a life” means, stocking up your hobbies or joining a random club or going for an adventurous trip or posting what you’re up to on your FB page.

Doing all that is just a senseless way of filling up your time. All this is doing is making you look like you have a life and are happy; when in fact, it is not so.

You need to back up, reflect on your actions and start afresh.

The great thing about having a life is that, you get to define what it means to you (no one else).

So, name one or two big things that you really value and that you’d like to spend a big portion of your time actively pursuing. For some it could be, “Fun”, I for instance need my life to be full of “Freedom”, “Peace” and “Love”. I won’t last long without any one of these. Figure this out about yourself and then ask yourself: What would make me feel the most like this?

Maybe you really value “Relationships,” so you’re going to set up a weekly lunch date with your (girl) friends. Or maybe you’re all about “Energy,” and the best way for you to get that is consciously opting to stay in one night a week and do nothing more than read a book that nourishes your spirit.

The possibilities are apparently endless and unfortunately I cannot write it all down on this one article but you must give it a try.

Allow your time to revolve around what is worth your time and energy and you’ll always have a complete life.

This is a controversial topic, but let me know how this resonates with you.