Let me share a secret of mine with my real friends today!
When I was expecting, I wished for a baby boy only for the sole reason that our society has never been able to give the due of a women.
Though we say that the society is evolving but truly, being born as a girl, I have known & seen the upsetting situations and conditions of women everywhere; be it at home front or in the professional world.
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As a to be mom, rather as a possessive one; I had fears & inhibitions of how my little girl would be treated at every front. So, as a soon to be mommy, I never wanted my baby to face any such unworthy problem (as we all have been through at some point of time in our lives).
I was actually very scared! But when Anaya was born, the first feeling which came to me as soon as the doctor took her out was “Thank God my baby has come safely & is fine.” Surprisingly, there was no question of gender in my mind.
Today when I have her with me and I am a proud mom, I have understood how fragile I was. I realized that if a boy gives the sense of completeness to a mother, so can a girl and in fact much more.
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A girl is the one who gives her all the strength & the realization of her as a super being who has brought to this world another super strength to carry on the progeny of a man.
When I had Anaya as a super blessing from God only then came the wisdom of understanding the power of a woman. The feeling of being a mother to a darling daughter was way beyond all these petty expectations & consideration of the world.
I really thank Anaya for being there & for having made me realize my worth.
My Angel, my Princess, my other pious self - Anaya.
This has been written with a pure intention of helping my friends whom I have come across many times facing depression post-delivery due to gender bias and family pressures
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I hope, a little sharing of this may bring an immediate positive awareness and help other women sailing in the same boat as I was. I wish we all can overcome this inherent pain and fight with all our lives with no more fear but with pride alone ! :)
The First promise I made to myself on seeing my daughter was : "I will always be your mom, your pillar of strength". Mom is just not a term explaining a relation accomplished through giving birth by physical self. It's power is explainable. From that day I realized that i was blessed to nurture & enhance my other pious self, my little girl Anaya and give her the best of life that I can.
May your birth prove to be a Blessing to Mankind!
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