As little girls we all grew up with fairy tales, and maybe we believed some of them. We thought that some handsome stud on a horse would rescue us when we were in distress, and we would soon have a pretty crown on our head to rule the kingdom with. And we would become a realistic disney princesses.
Growing up and facing hardships makes you forget about fairy tales, and start to think that fantasy may be out of reach – but I am here to tell you that it’s not! You can make your own fairytale , or close to it and be a realistic princess, if you follow these five tips.
1. Give Your Crown A Confident Head To Rest On
A good princess has to have a good head on her shoulders. She should be smart, worldly, and ambitious in order to rule her kingdom effectively. Make sure you are filling your brain with knowledge, learn new things, get training to get better at your job or get the job you want. Take charge of your life and fill your time making yourself better, smarter, more well versed in the things you care about and that can bring you success.
2. Get Close To Your Kingdom
Everyone know a princess that is most loved by the kingdom is the one that shares with them. If you watch Game of Thrones, you see how Danerys, the mother of Dragons, endears people of the lands she conquers to her by sharing with them her plans and what she feels. Even modern princess needs people to share with and talk to, to open up and unburden with. When we are confused or hurting many of us want to keep those feelings to ourselves and not let others in, because we perceive sharing as showing weakness. In fact, if we open up and share, we bring people closer to us and create a circle of support, and in turn become stronger leaders.
3. Make Time For Joy
What did every old school princess have in common? They all had at least one scene in the movie where they are happy, singing, frolicking with cute little creatures, and having a good time. Even though a big dragon was coming to eat them, or evil stepsisters had ruined their plans, they still took the time to experience joy and not let those awful things get them down for too long. I remember the scene in Cinderella where the little animals are helping to prepare Cinderella’s dress for the ball, and singing while they are working.
Basically what I am getting at is that all these women had a ‘mood hack’. They knew doom was coming, they weren’t having the best day but they had the power to change their mood by doing something which gives them joy. Singing, dancing, reading, talking, walking, whatever it is, just do it.
4. Mirror, Mirror
A modern day princess has to be able to look in the mirror and like what she sees. Self pity and negativity don’t befit a future queen, and a fairly take life requires the knowledge that everything will be ok in the end. These same women also use the mirror to reflect and ask some basic questions about the things going on in their lives. “What is the lesson here?”; “How can I take what is happening and make myself stronger and help others”, and last but not least: “am I acting out of fear or love?”. When a princess can reflect and ask these questions, she’s able to grow and be the best she can be.
5. If The Prince Doesn’t Come, Don’t Panic
In fairy tales of the past, princesses never needed to rely on themselves, they had a prince to rescue them and all would be well. Well, we all know that in the real world, that is hardly the case. When a princely Romeo comes our way, most of us RUN! :)
Don’t wait to be rescued by someone all the time. You are your own person with your own strong heart and smart mind. You can make decisions that benefit you if you take the time to breathe, weigh options, and take the time to get clear. NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU, so might as well start flexing your muscles, and get ready to do the things yourself to get what you want out of life.
Make sure that you are being proactive and living your life to the best. That means if you are looking for opportunities, go out and get them, don’t wait for anyone to give them to you. Jobs, entrepreneurship, even relationships require you being open about what you want and what skills and gifts you bring to the table.
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